After years of studying child development, theology, and family dynamics, we've developed a simple framework for identity formation: BELONG → BEHOLD → BECOME. The sequence matters.
Pillar 1: BELONG
Before a child can believe anything about themselves, they need to know they're connected. Belonging isn't earned—it's declared.
Practical application: Tell your child daily, 'You belong in this family. Nothing you do can change that. You're not a guest here—you're home.'
Pillar 2: BEHOLD
Once belonging is established, children can 'behold'—that is, receive and internalize truth about who they are. They can look in the mirror of your love and see themselves clearly.
Practical application: At bedtime, look your child in the eyes and speak affirmations: 'You are brave. You are kind. You are loved.'
Pillar 3: BECOME
Only after belonging and beholding comes becoming. When children are secure in who they are, they naturally develop into who they're meant to be.
Practical application: Watch for their unique gifts and call them out: 'I notice you're really gentle with your little sister. That's the kindness God put inside you.'
"Sequence matters. You can't rush to BECOME if you skip BELONG and BEHOLD."
The AlreadyLoved Team